Posted by: ayrshirehealth | March 2, 2016

Our whole house changed by @student_Nurse_j

Looking in from the outside

In December 2015 my granny Jessie who was 83 years old got taken into hospital after much persuading from ambulance staff. SAS

You see my gran had dementia and was suffering delirium from an untreated urine infection so everything was frightening to her, she didn’t understand who the men that were touching her were, she didn’t understand why she was lying in a bed and unable to move because she was so weak, but what she really didn’t understand was why the people that she knew were her family, but didn’t quite know how they were family were crying watching as the medical staff convinced her to be taken into hospital.

Sweet shopShe was confused because she was certain she was still a young girl, she would wait until it started to get dark then got excited because her daddy was due home and always brought sweeties with him.Buses - traditional

She used to try to get out of bed because she had to catch the bus or she was going to be late for work and she would chat away to my sisters and me as if we were just her friends telling us about going out to the dancing and other wonderful things she got up to in her childhood.

One last sleep – our whole house changed

So when she got taken into hospital our whole house changed, there was no one sitting there waiting to give their opinion on an outfit for a night out, no one demanding that you drive all the way to the closest chippy to get a portion of fritters and even though the dementia had taken away everything that we had known about our “old” gran we then grew to love our “new” gran and it was a massive change for us all.

University Hospital CrosshouseIt was her stay in Crosshouse hospital looking in from the outside and from a family’s perspective that I realised how proud and blessed I am to be training beside NHS Ayrshire and Arran nurses, medical staff and the host of others who make the difference to our patients.

Everything was done to make sure that my gran was happy, comfortable and content it was even organised that she was supported to come home from 11am to 8pm on Christmas day so she could spend her last Christmas with her family, after a lengthy stay in hospital my gran came home in January to fall sleep one last time.

Palliative care

It was the fantastic care from the district nurses when my gran was on palliative care that will stay with me forever. Holding grans hand Gran's weddingI was amazed at how empathetic and compassionate towards my gran and all the family they were and even though my gran was no longer responding and able to talk they talked her through every process of her care and spoke to her as if she would answer back, asking questions that only she could give an answer to, they respected her, they respected her rights and even though she couldn’t tell say them, they respected her opinions.

Over the weeks it felt like the nurses became a part of our family they were able to have a laugh and joke with us but also able to comfort us when we were sad.

High expectations

UWS black logoMy name is Jayde Currie and I’m a UWS student nurse and this experience has set an amazing example and high expectations of how exactly a nurse should be.

I’m passionate about dementia care and hope to one day go on to specialise in this.  A lot of people say they fell into nursing but that wasn’t the case for me.

Gran - Jessie DempsterI have been a young carer for most of my life helping to look after my mother who suffers from ill health and mental illness as well as my sister who also has mental illnesses and then my gran with dementia, so going into nursing was a natural career progression for me and it is definitely the right choice.

I hope one day that I can make NHS Ayrshire and Arran as proud as they should be of the nurses involved in my gran’s care.

Jessie Logan Dempster 13/03/1932-29/01/2016

This week’s blog was by @Student_Nurse_j (Jayde Currie), Student Nurse, University of the West of Scotland – Jessie Logan Dempster’s grand daughter.

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Responses

  1. My Mother passed away in Crosshouse a few years back. She was 90 but lucid until she died. Nonetheless I agree with Jayde. The care, compassion, smiles and shared sadness shown to our Family were a comfort then and continue to be a comfort to me still. You are joining a unique band of special people Jayde. I just know you will do well.

  2. Jayde, I was sorry to learn your gran had died- but wonderfully uplifted by your story and also your personal journey. Thank you so much for sharing- it’s incredibly reassuring to hear of such compassionate care- and I’m sure that will underpin all that you do in your professional practice

    Best wishes
    Fiona

  3. Glad to hear some positiveness about dementia care and that staff are dedicated in Ayrshire and Arran. I wish you success in the future.

    • Thank you very much, I’m really passionate about dementia care and can’t thank Ayrshire and Arran enough for the care that my gran received

      Jayde ✌🏻️ X

  4. Thanks for sharing your story Jayde. Sorry to hear about your granny but it’s fantastic that she received great care as this is the time that can be really worrying for family. We are actually in the same uni class but I don’t believe we have had the pleasure of meeting in person. It’s great to see another student writing for Ayrshire Health. I think the NHS is going to gain some great nurses from 2015 cohort! 😉
    Best wishes
    Stacey

    • Apologies for my phone auto correcting going to some word that doesn’t make sense 😂🙈

  5. Jayde my thoughts are with you and your family.
    I would also like to congratulate and thank you for taking the time to write such an insightful blog. NHSaaa strive to deliver excellent person centred care for people with dementia. It’s so rewarding to receive feedback when we get it right.
    I am always encouraged to hear from clinicians at the start of their career pathway that they wish to specialise in dementia care (not that I’m biased). It is one of the most rewarding fields to work in. With the personal knowledge and insight that you have gained I am sure you will be an asset to any clinical area and I wish you well in your future career.

  6. what a lovely, bitter sweet blog.
    so sorry to hear about your gran, she sounded like a great woman.
    i’m sure you will go on to make her and the rest of your family very proud!
    best of luck in your career, i’m sure you will make a wonderful nurse!

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  8. Thanks Jayde for taking the time to share this experience with us. Your gran would be so proud of you and I am sure you will become an excellent nurse.


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